21 Aug 2020 | Peter and Bridget Helliar
The idea of travelling with kids is daunting; after all, childcare hard enough just juggling life on a day-to-day basis. However, going on an epic adventure with your kids can also be a rewarding and bonding experience. Peter and Bridget wrote Trippin’ With Kids with the hope that it will inspire, provide the practical tools for anyone to start travelling with their kids, and prove to you, that if they could do it then you can too.
Before you start booking your holiday, consider what will be best given the ages of your kids.
Like changing the batteries in the smoke alarm or performing a single one-handed push-up, travelling with babies is easier than you think. They do, however, require a lot more stuff, so lugging the extra around can be tiresome. Your main priorities will be security, sleep, nappy changes and food. We found the easiest thing was to use a baby carrier: you can see the sights you want to see and your bub has what it needs – you (and the food and nappies). Also ensure you never go for full-on days when travelling with babies; always have breaks and allow quiet times for the baby to sleep.
Planes are a good option when travelling with babies, especially with the bassinet option (but book the bassinet as soon as you can because they go very quickly). Take-offs and landings are tough enough on big ears so they will be tough on little ones too. Brij would breastfeed our babies on take-off and landing and that helped. Get them sucking one way or another; if they’re not breastfeeding and don’t need a bottle, try getting them to suck your clean hand or if they have a dummy try that. Don’t worry about a crying baby – most people just ignore it or will politely help if they think they can offer something. The crying doesn’t last forever and it won’t ruin anyone’s trip.
Baby naps will be the hardest thing to keep to schedule if you or your bub need a strict routine.
You can, if you think it will help, start changing their nap times a week before you leave to fit in with your destination. We found that a bit difficult so our little ones simply slept when they could or wanted to – we just watched for tired signs.
For us, travelling with a crawling toddler was the hardest – as you probably know, they want to be everywhere and investigate absolutely everything. It’s just so demanding, and once they know how to crawl they can be so fast! Toddlers are entertained by whatever they don’t have, so you have to be switched on when you are out. The type of trip doesn’t matter: as long as you can keep them safe and healthy, they will have lots of fun. We preferred to stay in apartments when travelling with a toddler; they can have a safe crawling area and a day nap (and parents can too). But do check the accommodation is safe: cover low power points and lock balcony doors.
Toddlers on planes are a bit more work, but it is possible. Allow some settling in time and walk around the cabin with them. You can also play games. Just
try to get them not to kick and pull on the seat in front of them.
Toddlers will get more out of a visit to Disneyland than the Louvre Museum, but that doesn’t mean you can’t visit some incredible museums – just don’t take as long as you would travelling without kids. A lot of museums and galleries are free or much cheaper for children, so they are still worth visiting even for a short amount of time.
This is the best age to travel with kids. It’s easy to take some time away from school and there are plenty of ways to keep them on top of schoolwork while away. They are eager to learnand see new things around this age. The world is still so big and exciting that everything will be entertainment for them. They don’t need a whole suitcase of extra items and they can carry or pull their own luggage. When we took our three kids backpacking in eastern Europe and the two older boys had their own backpacks to look after and managed the task well.
Long distances are easier with kids at primary school: they all fit in the back seat of the car, they can handle long plane journeys and they don’t care about missing things back home.
We love travelling with teenagers because they are helpful and you can have some pretty awesome conversations with them. However, travelling with teenagers can be more difficult:
school is more important, as are friendships, social life and time to themselves. It’s harder to drive long distances with three growing (and taller than you) teenagers in the back seat.
Involving your teenagers in planning the trip will be an important part of its success. By the time kids are teenagers, they usually have a say in many things the family does, so why wouldn’t they have a say in your holiday destination? Are they adventure-seeking teenagerswith abseiling and whitewater rafting in mind? Or are they theme park diehards with thrill rides on their must-do list? Planning and talking together means you’re more likely to include everyone’s ideas on your trip. For things you want to do that your teenagers are not keen on, keep it short: if you’re going to a gallery or museum, go to the parts you’re most interested in and if the kids want to sit on the steps out the front halfway through, let them. Also, have a teenage-friendly activity planned afterwards. Mix and match your activities so it’s one for you, one for them. And then one for all of you!
The older your teenagers are, the more challenging it will be taking them out of school. Will they be doing homework? Make sure you have wifi or data for this to happen and all the right books. Don’t take Year 11 and 12 students away from school days if possible. Even some school holidays can be hard for this age group with study expectations; you know your child so if you think they are going to be anxious about not doing homework for two weeks in January and there is no wifi, maybe put camping off-grid on hold for a year or two.
It’s also the time for serious discussions. Are you ready to let your teenager do some things without you? Talk about boundaries before you book the trip. You also need to make sure your older teenagers know how to be safe when on holiday, so talking about sex, drugs and new friends is important.
Ah yes, one of the great challenges of travelling with kids: maintaining your sanity. Travelling with your little ones can definitely take its toll on your patience and energy levels, and we have, more than once, found ourselves with a crying baby and fighting toddlers in a long queue or at a busy train station or cafe. Most people will sympathise with your plight and generally people will want to help you (even if it’s partly self-serving so they don’t have to listen to a child screaming!). Our approach is to always be polite and smile. As hard as it may be in the moment, try to smile through it. We find sometimes apologising for the craziness can inspire people to help you out. People tend to want help nice, friendly people; it’s human nature to not want to go out of your way to help rude people. Try to stay calm, explain what is happening and ask for help.
You can be completely organised, bags packed perfectly and tickets in hand. Yet the stresses of holidays can creep in and make it about as much fun as a beach holiday for a polar bear. Sometimes just getting everyone to the airport has the potential to be the biggest ‘fight day’ of all; there will be so much nervous energy and excitement, so word-up the kids early on how important it is for everyone to pitch in. As the adults, remind yourselves to breathe and be prepared for not everything to go perfectly. This way it will be a lovely surprise when things do go smoothly (which we are sure they will!).
Here are some of our quick tips to keep your kids (or you!) from having a meltdown in the middle of Times Square: